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Saturday, January 3, 2015

Challenges

Good morning lovlies!

Everyday has its own challenges.

Each person faces their own demons.

All in all though I try to live by what the above quote says.

In line with teaching that outlook to my children I have shared 2 ways in which we are striving to keep things positive in our daily lives…

A Gifting Jar

A Gratitude Jar

Both of these help us to focus on good in others and in our personal lives.

There is already so much negativity out there so at times it certainly can be difficult looking to the positive,

and it certainly can be easier to just allow that negativity to swallow us up.

It is a fight.

A struggle.

Not easy.

But

it is a fight so worth fighting and not giving up on.

Why this focus now?

Because

I have focused almost half of my life trying to please and make 1 person happy.

That person was not me.

All my energy and time went into that and in the process I lost who I was.

I am truly finding me again,

the person I was

it has been a struggle,

it still is a struggle,

a struggle to me is worth it though.

It is a very difficult thing when a person in your life is so demanding of your time and energy,

especially when they do not realize they command such attention.

It also amazes me at how much you just do not realize it until you take a step back

or

they do,

because you love and care about them that initially it seems natural,

a good thing,

a loving thing.

But when it begins to rob you of your personal joy,

when you begin to lose who you are,

that is when it needs to find a balance.

If nothing else I have certainly learned a lot over my 21 years of marriage.

I have many good memories.

I have 3 children that I love dearly.

I can honestly say I love my soon to be ex-husband, and probably always will

just too much has happened and changed for us to be together.

Even something as horrible as my divorce I am looking to the positive.

It is what I have to do to cope.

To ultimately be happy.

The alternative is not an option for me.

Not to say I do not have my moments.

Times I hide in the bathroom or bedroom and cry.

Times where all I want to do is to go to sleep and just not wake up.

I do.

I choose at those times to use tools that help me cope…

to get through…

until I see the sun again.

This is me,

and you know what?

I like me!

Until next time be happy!!

Trish

Thursday, January 1, 2015

Hello 2015

Good morning there lovlies! Can you believe 2015 has arrived?!

I am happy to say good bye to 2014.

It held some pretty bad times for me.

I learned a lot,

but would not ever want to revisit what I have been through.

That being said there is still the finalizing of my divorce next month so struggles will continue through 2015.

One thing is changing though.

That is how I think about things.

It seems everywhere I turn people,

people I care about,

are struggling.

I come in contact with many people daily in my work,

everyone just about that I meet has struggles.

It just seems no matter where we turn people are dealing with such hard things.

Health issues.

Mental health issues.

Financial issues.

Family issues.

No matter what I am dealing with personally,

the only way I keep myself from being just completely unhappy is to not focus on all the negative,

but rather look for the positive even in whatever bad situation is thrown at me.

If we truly look hard enough good can be found in most issues.

There are so many things in our lives we just cannot change,

we are powerless to change them.

BUT

We can change our attitude, how we look at things.

How we approach what we might be going through.

How many times have we heard of people kicking cancer and the doctors are baffled as to why.

More times than not it was the persons positive outlook that was vital to the persons success.

For me part of that attitude is gratitude.

I find that when I focus on the good, the blessings I do have in my life I can cope with the bad that comes.

I mean how ungrateful I would be if I did not give thanks daily

and

focus on that good despite what not so good is happening?!

To help my children with this,

and myself in this process starting tonight we are going to begin making a Gratitude Jar.

Each night when we sit down for dinner we will each write down something good that happened that day.

This helps in so many ways.

First it helps us to change our thinking looking for good even in what we might think is the worst day ever.

Next if we are having a “worst day ever” we can open the jar and read some of our blessings and remember.

Finally they are our memories and

we can sit at a family time together pull them all out and remember together,

sharing and being able again to be thankful for all that we are truly blessed with.

Many people give thanks and focus on that 1 day a year.

Here in our family we do it as often as possible.

This will help us to focus on it daily,

making it a habit of showing our love and gratitude for all that is good in our lives.

So until next time be fantabulous!!

Trish